We think traditional therapy can be a perpetual trap!
Instead, we focus on helping gamblers and their families to make better life choices, debunking all the addiction and recovery myths that keep them trapped in the old rehab system that exhausts family dynamics.
FEAR OR FREEDOM?
So how would you choose to live your life? I’m sure you would prefer freedom over fear! And that is the difference between good recovery and recovery for good!
Let me explain:
Everything from 10 Days 10 Measures through the STOP4GOOD programme was designed to give exactly that: Your FREEDOM, the thing you were born with!
Once you stop gambling, assuming you have done so, having followed our previous programmes, there are 2 ways you are going to face the future. Either, because of the FEAR of gambling, you’re not going to a sports event, a Bingo Hall, horse racing, etc.
Or you have the FREEDOM to go wherever you want because you know for a fact that you have everything in place along with your willpower that will stop you from gambling!
Attending whatever you want, whenever you need without fear, is what we call the difference between; a good recovery or recovery4good!
Keeping the strategies in place that you have implemented gives you the resources you need to stay gambling free!
Let’s talk about FEAR:
Before we continue, we believe if you have any doubts around FEAR these need to be addressed before you can fully engage in our programme Recovery4Good.
What are you afraid of?
Dealing with all the issues gambling brought into your life has not been easy for you. So it is no surprise you might be worrying about some or all of the following:
- Fear you might lose your relationship
- Fear of making firm decisions
- Fear of being rejected
- Fear of a relapse, or lapse
I fear my ability to cope!
At the bottom of all of your fears, the one thing that you’re truly afraid of is that you won’t be able to handle whatever comes your way!
The main reason for fear, whether it’s due to changing careers, buying a new house, or improving your health, is change! Everyone experiences different levels when encountering change.
So how do I cope?
From now on you are going to say these four little words; “I can handle it!”
- What if I lose my job? I’ll handle it!
- What if this fight ends my relationship? I’ll handle it!
- What if I fail miserably and am humiliated? I’ll handle it!
So repeat this to yourself again and again until you can develop enough trust in your abilities to enable you to handle any situation that comes your way.
The 5 truths about fear that you must understand:
- Truth 1: Fear never goes away
- As long as you keep growing, fear will never go away! If you are committed to living a life better than the one you were born with, developing, growing and accomplishing things, then you’ll be facing fear forever, and that’s okay!
- By accepting fear is part of your life, you will reduce your fear of everything.
- As soon as you are out of your comfort zone, you’ll have fear. The secret is to realise it will always be a part of your life, but carry on despite it.
- Every time you take a step into the unknown, you’ll experience fear, its part of the deal. So there is no point in saying, “When I am no longer afraid, then I will do it,” because you’ll be waiting for a long time.
- Truth 2: The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something, is to do it!
- For instance, if you want to jump out of an airplane, you need to be fearless and do it no matter what. If you want to do things in your life it can’t be sidestepped, instead, you need to jump in the face of it and do it until the fear subsides.
- Truth 3: The only way to feel better about myself is to go and do it.
- Doing comes first, feeling better comes second. If you want to lose some weight you have to go to the gym now, not tomorrow, not in the New Year. That just doesn’t work.
- Freedom comes by achieving whatever you want to accomplish, and it starts today!
- Leaving it for later will make you quit. Instead of saying I need to go because I fear a heart attack! Say I want to go to the gym to look good and get fit. This changes everything, you have a vision, a purpose.
- Truth 4: Everyone experiences fear in unfamiliar situations.
- When faced with a situation you don’t know the outcome, remember everyone has experienced fear at times, so go ahead, do what you know you have to do.
- Yes, all those people who have succeeded in doing what they have wanted to do in life have felt fear – and did it anyway. So can you!
- With each step into the unknown, a pattern of strength develops. You’ll soon feel stronger and stronger.
- Truth 5: Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with it!
- Helplessness, not being in control, is no way to live. Accept that any change for the better will mean you’ll have to face your fears again and again.
- Do you think the armed forces don’t have any fear? Of course they do, but they do it anyway, they learned to push through their fears. Their success is because they manage their fears!
- Keeping your head down won’t get you results, either you say I can or I can’t…you’re right!
This should be a relief, knowing you are not the only one out there feeling fear.
Now, how are you going to live your life: In fear or Freedom?
In the future, are you going to say: I’m in recovery or I’m recovered?